The Trials of a Busy Mom

Author: Superpaige (Page 127 of 180)

Day one of our summer of fun, and all’s well

–So far, the job system is working GREAT.  I woke up to kids cleaning the bathroom and sweeping the floor.  I thought I was in the twilight zone.  Megan is the real go getter, as money is her motivator.  And her enthusiasm helps the other kids at least do their basic jobs.

–Jennna enjoyed her first piano lesson.  She did really well and was excited.  She even drew a picture for the teacher to give to her next week.

–Swimming lessons went well, too.  Jenna was very scared, and John fell asleep on the way, so he was a little groggy and grumpy, but they had small groups (3-5 kids per teacher) and they started out in the little kiddie pool.  Cole and Megan and Natalie also enjoyed their lessons, although Natalie’s teacher is “a boy”, and Megan was “the only girl in her class”.  But I watched the news last night and it said that it’s going to get very cold tomorrow.  I don’t know how well swimming in 45 degree weather is going to go over.

–John said to me today, “HELLO, I said I wanted to watch a MOVIE.”  It was the “hello” that got me.  What?

–Today Megan is going with her Achievement day girls to the art museum at BYU, and I’m taking Jenna and Natalie to their little theater class.  We’re also totally out of birdseed, so if I don’t get to Walmart today to buy birdseed, 5 little feathered friends are not going to be too happy.

Job chart

I’ve been working on a job chart for the kids. I’m trying really hard to get them used to doing the jobs and getting things done IN THE MORNING so that we can do fun things the rest of the day and I won’t have to nag nag nag all day (only in the morning). Some of you may think I’m the ultimate cheapskate, but I think it’s about the right balance. If the kids do the absolute minimum, they would only earn about $2.00-$2.50 per week. That’s about enough for a 6 year old. What does she need to pay for, anyway? But the older kids, who think they need more money, can do more jobs and earn more money. In just the three days we did this last week, Megan earned $2.30. So, I’m hoping it will work for the summer.

Taking care of self

–make bed

–put away clothes

–fold clothes

–take dirty clothes to the laundry room

–hang up towel

–pick up toys in room

–read scriptures for 10 minutes

–practice for 20 minutes

Helping the family

–weeding one row in the garden every day

–dish job

(not paid, do every day)

All unpaid jobs and TWO paid jobs must be done and ready for inspection by 10 am. Extra jobs may take longer.

–vacuum room (25 cents)

–clean kids bathroom (50 cents)

–clean downstairs bathroom (25 cents)

–clean and vacuum family room (30 cents)

–clean and vacuum upstairs hall (20 cents)

–sweep kitchen floor (30 cents)

–mop kitchen floor (50 cents)

–vacuum stairs (20 cents)

–wash 5 windows with NO STREAKS (50 cents)

–sweep front porch (25 cents)

–weed one flower bed for 15 minutes (25 cents)

–clean and vacuum front room (30 cents)

–clean kitchen counters (30 cents)

–dust piano (15 cents)

–dust one room’s blinds (20 cents)

–clean birdcage (35 cents)

–clean bird poop (35 cents)

–clean mud room (40 cents)

–sweep or vacuum mud room floor (30 cents)

–do one load of laundry (25 cents)

–unload groceries (15 cents)

–clean cupboard fronts (30 cents)

–empty trash (20 cents)

Pay day is Saturday. Please add up what you have earned.


Weekend fun

This is a fun weekend! I’ve spent time with friends at a yummy dinner date out on Friday night. We had good food, great conversations, and it was a time to renew long time friendships and give support. Some of my friends are going through a lot of challenging times right now, and I wish I could help. But I will pray for them and lend support where I can.

I spent a fun Saturday morning going to the American Fork Marching Band yard sale. I LOVE the band yard sale, and I’m thrilled when I happen upon it each summer. It’s about 30 kids setting up their stuff, and most of them aren’t really picky about prices. I got a lot of cute t-shirts for the girls with fun sayings on them (for a quarter or 50 cents each). They say stuff like: ‘I’m with the band’, ‘chocolate girl’ and Natalie’s favorite–‘kiss me I’m blonde’. Natalie also got an “American Girl Doll” for $4 and a bunch of American Girl books. (After reading over my shoulder, she reminded me to not forget the visor that she bought for 25 cents.) I picked up a few more books for the kids, some clothes for John, a Clifford the big red dog costume,and a brand new in the package Wallace and Gromit movie on VHS for $1 each. My great find of the day, however, was a Baby Lock serger that I purchased for $50. No instruction manual, but that didn’t phase Ryan, who figured out why the feed dogs weren’t feeding. Now I just need to buy some thread on the cones, and I can serge that skirt that I made a few weeks ago that really needs a serged edge. Did I mention the skirt I made? I bought one at Kohls that was sort of like this one here.

There it is, Natalie’s wearing it (the skirt I bought, not the one I made). Then I made a pattern and made my own skirt out of a pair of jeans and some cute fabric. But the hem just doesn’t look right because it isn’t serged. I thought I had a picture of it, but I guess not. Anyway, I’m excited.

I had a fun time with my family. My cousin Sarah is getting married, so we had a bridle shower for her at my aunt’s house. Lots of fun to chat with my cousins, my sisters, my mom, and my aunts. Megan and Natalie went with me, and Megan was very helpful in the concentration game. While we were sometimes talking through the game and not paying attention, she knew where the matches were–Thanks, Megan.

We also did a bunch of deliveries yesterday. I’ve been working on a summer fun calendar, which lists all the fun things we could do together as a neighborhood. Potlucks, a football game, bike parade,a scavenger hunt, our slide party and various field trips are all on there. I made copies for everyone in the neighborhood, and even gave them to the people who don’t have kids at home, just in case they have grandkids visiting or want to join in with the neighborhood events. So, the kids and I went around passing them out. John talked non stop during our walk, and although it was fun to be with him, his talking eventually got to me. We also delivered some ‘water bottle rocket launchers’ that Ryan had made, and took treats to Natalie’s teacher who just had a baby. Everything we needed to deliver has now been delivered. Whew.

Now we’re hoping to have a nice, relaxing Sunday. Although it is fast Sunday, and that makes for some grumpies, but we’ll get through those.

I hope you all had a fun weekend, too! Oh, and watch out for pirates.

It’s officially over

The school year is officially over for my kids. Whew. We made it though another year. I no longer have a Kindergartener, can you believe it? Jenna had her Kindergarten graduation yesterday, and it was awfully cute. They sang songs, recited poems, showed a slide show of their art work, and they even played kazoos. Since this was our 3rd child to have this particular kindergarten teacher, I pretty much knew what to expect, but it still brought tears to my eyes. Must they go on to 1st grade? I guess they do, and our job as parents is to let them grow, and support them. I also no longer have a 7th grader, 5th grader or 2nd grader. They all did great this year, and we’re looking forward to a great summer.

And what better way to start off the summer than our annual neighborhood water party. I must admit–yes, I organized it. I’m just an organizer that way. This year it was not at my house, though, and that was nice. My friend Geanna had a WAY cooler backyard, and my friend Lisa went and picked up a bounce house this morning. We all paid $8 for the bounce house, and brought food, and we had a lovely lunch of hot dogs. Mental note to self–way too many chips and not enough hot dogs. I’ll have to try to get it evened out next year. We got there at 11, and at 2:30, I made my kids come home, as I knew they were all getting sunburned and would soon be nothing more than a little black pile of ashes if I let them stay outside any longer. My kids had a great time filling water balloons, and we took over the water bottle launcher and it was a big hit, too. John had fun bouncing, but really spent a lot of time in the sandbox. I think we might need to put in one of our own. The kids all love digging so much! My 3 oldest kids just went back to jump in the bounce house some more, since John fell asleep exhausted on the couch. I figure they can jump for another hour before dinner, and then maybe we’ll go back again later tonight (since we don’t have to return the bounce house until 10 pm or something like that.

So, it’s kick off the summer weekend, and so far we’re off to a great start.

I guess I’d be grouchy, too.

I got a call from Cole this morning from the middle school at about 8:30. Now you know how I feel about calling before 9:00, right? So, of course I knew that nothing good could come from this phone call. On the other end of the line is Cole, and I can barely hear him. “Mom, they won’t let me have my yearbook because I have a fine.” Great. I try to ask him how much of a fine, and did wasn’t there some kind of note he should have given me, and what is the fine for, etc. He’s just getting more and more upset, and he sounds like he’s about in tears. He doesn’t know any of those things, so I ask him to go over and ask how much of a fine it is, and then to call me back.

Maybe I can just take care of this myself, I thought to myself, as I called the school office.
“Hi, my son says he has a fine, and I’d like to find out how much that is so we can get that take care of.”

“I can’t transfer you to the financial secretary because she’s got a line of about 40 kids all trying to figure out the same thing,” the secretary said to me in a very snippy voice. She was obviously not going to be any help at all.

“Well, is there any way…” I started asking.

“If you’d like to come here and stand in line with these kids, I’m sure she can tell you how much the fine is,” she said. Yeah, that’s REALLY what I want to do. That’s why I was calling. To avoid standing in line with about 40 kids. 40 kids just like Cole, who didn’t bother to let their parents know that they had a fine, and are now all upset because they can’t get their yearbooks. Please, can I stand in line with them? Please?

I thanked the rude secretary and hung up. I was feeling really irritated that she was so rude to me and was obviously NOT going to help me.

But as I got ready for my day (hair, makeup, find John’s shoes, etc.), I realized that that poor secretary is probably just barely hanging on to her sanity. It’s the last full day of school, for heaven’s sake. She’s made it through the other 178 days and she’s probably really REALLY tired of all those kids. Kids just like my kid. Instead of being irritated with her because she couldn’t help me, I should have taken her a diet coke when I went over to pay the silly fine. (Cole called back about 20 minutes later and said it was $13, so I asked him to meet me at the front of the school in 15 more minutes so he could pay his fine and pick up his yearbook. We’ll discuss what in the world this fine was for and who will be paying for it later.) But, not knowing the secretaries at that school at all, I didn’t do that. But I hope they survive their last few days of school, and, like all the teachers out there and people who work at the schools, I hope they enjoy their summer break.

It’s always fun at Grandma’s house

I was going to write all about the picnic at my Grandma Coleman’s house on Monday, and the great memories of visiting there, but my sister did all that for me.

We have such a great family, and it was really nice to see them again.  Some of my cousins I only see about once or twice a year, and I wish we could get together more often.  But we had a fun time exploring the grounds, and playing with our kids like we use to play.  This willow tree has had it’s fair share of swingers.  But there used to be an old car there that we would climb on–now that was fun.

And they used to actually use this outdoor fireplace, but mostly I remember climbing on it, like John was doing this week.

Megan ran around the house taking pictures of the inside and outside, so if you are interested in seeing more pictures (taken by an 11 year old, remember), you can click here.

Why I deserve a cookie

I’m eating a cookie right now.  And it’s good.  And I deserve it.

Why?  Well, the kids came inside and said, “We have something to show you.  Come outside.”  Hmmmm.  That can’t be good, can it?  I go outside to find a dead bird in the backyard.  It looked like a cat had gotten it.  It was all bloody and mangled and there were a lot of feathers around it.  Why didn’t the cat just eat it, I wonder.  I’m glad that there are cats out there, as I want them to eat all the mice in and around our yard.  It just makes me sad to see them attacking the birds.  Oh well, I guess it’s the circle of life and all that.  But then something had to be done with that bird.  Someone had to get it out of the yard, and unfortunately, that someone was me.  There were no males, and certainly no male adults around to do it for me.  So, I got a garden trowel, scooped the poor dead bird into a weeding bucket, and disposed of it.  Where?  Well, I tossed it over the fence like I do with lots of other yard waste.  What?  It’s an empty lot!  Maybe a different hungry cat will come by and want a snack.

When I came inside and washed my hands thoroughly,  I was greeted by a smell.  An all too familiar smell wafting towards me from a certain 3 year old who just barely had used the potty (much to his displeasure).  I don’t know what we are going to do with this kid.  Even though he knows how to pee on command, if I didn’t force him onto the potty, he would just do everything in his pull-up.  ARRGh!  Anyway, I just changed him for about the millionth time.  Ick.
And that’s why I deserve this cookie.

Memorial Day

Back when we lived in our house in Lehi,
(and I can’t find any digital pictures of the house or the backyard right now, so I just threw in one of the kids in the living room), we lived right by the cemetery. When we looked out our back yard, we could see right into the cemetery grounds. We had to try to be quiet and not play outside when there was a funeral going on, just out of courtesy to the families. We never thought it was creepy or weird, since it was a beautiful, well kept place; not creepy and old. We used to walk or ride our bikes back there, and the neighbors were quiet.(Thanks, Ryan, for finding pictures of the old house. It must have been winter, because our grass sure looks dead, doesn’t it?)
I learned to love Memorial Day. Before we lived there I didn’t really think much of the holiday except that it was a day off of school and work. We weren’t really big cemetery visitors and it wasn’t a family tradition to go and visit graves and place flowers. Maybe because we didn’t really have many people close to us who had died. Oh, I do remember going to my Grandma’s grave, or my Grandpa’s grave a few times, but it wasn’t every year.

But living right by a cemetery, you get to see all the people come and do some big time decorating. One family made a balloon arch every year. That was cool. Others, who had lost a child, would decorate with balloons, flowers and stuffed animals. Those graves were often decorated for every holiday, not just Christmas. And when I would read the headstones, I would feel so sad for those families. The decorating frenzy would begin on Saturday, with the views from the back window growing increasingly colorful as the weekend progressed. Families would gather, some with food and games, and have a fun time of it. It was always nice to observe. Then we would go for walks and look at all the pretty flowers and decorations.

On the Monday after Memorial day was the day to go mum hunting. You see, if families don’t come and pick up their flowers, the city workers would come by on the next Monday and throw it all away. So, Sunday night or Monday morning I would go through and pick out some that were still living, bring them home and plant them. I got several mums that way. That is not stealing. They were going to throw them away anyway!

This Memorial Day it’s all about fun with friends and family. Saturday evening we had some good friends over for dinner. The kids played with the water bottle launcher, jumped on the tramp and climbed on the playground. The adults talked and laughed. We had good food and it was very nice! There was that small incident of a child throwing up in the bathroom, but I think my bathroom came through it cleaner than it started, thanks to my lovely friend Melinda. I hope the car ride home was uneventful and there was no further throwing up.

Sunday we had a nice time at church, and enjoyed the much smaller numbers. Usually we have about 500 in Sacrament meeting, and this week Ryan tells me there were about 270. Room for everyone on the nice soft benches, and only 10 in John’s sunbeam class (instead of the usual 17).

Monday we are going to go to my Grandma’s house. Grandma has moved in with my aunt, as she can no longer take care of herself. He house will be sold, demolished and made into a cul-de-sac, I think. I believe someone bought two houses and will take them both out to put in a few more. So, we’re meeting there with my cousins and family for one last picnic at the old family home. It will be kind of sad to see it go, as we have so many memories of that little old house, and my grandparents who lived there (good ideas for a later post). Later we have a pool party and barbeque planned with Ryan’s family. So, it’s a full day of fun family goodness.

I hope you have a wonderful Memorial Day, too, and that we don’t forget those who served and died for our freedoms.

Road trip

Today we have a “road trip” for our bell choir. If you could call it that. It’s more of a long drive on the bus, do a concert, then drive a long drive on the bus home. We’re going to Garland. It’s close to Tremonton. I’ve actually been to Garland once. My good friend Sharmyn was in a play up there a few years back. No, she didn’t live there. She lived in Salt Lake, worked in Salt Lake, and would drive up there for rehearsals and performances. Talk about crazy. But she’s a theater person, and all theater people are just a little bit crazy, aren’t they? Ryan and I went up to see her in that play. It was something about a Vicar’s wife. Silly me, I didn’t even know what a vicar was. But Sharmyn was brilliant in that play, and we enjoyed our drive up there. That must have been before we had kids, because I can’t really imagine us going up there with little people in tow. But I digress. We’re doing a bell concert up there tonight. So, if you know anyone who lives close by and wants to attend a free concert, be sure to let them know.

I feel a little bit like I did in high school, when our Brighton high school bell choir went up to Thatcher Penrose (a little town also close to Tremonton) for a bell concert. We were a bit bummed because the madrigals got to go on a fabulous trip to Hawaii or something like that, and we got to go to Thatcher Penrose. We stayed with people in the community overnight, went horseback riding, and did a concert. Then we came home. Melinda and I stayed with the cutest little old lady in a sweet old house. It was fun. Really, we had a great time. But let’s face it, it’s no Hawaii.

When asked why we’re going there for our first “away from Salt Lake” concert, I have to answer that it’s our director’s home town (same director as we had back in high school, by the way). I’m hoping it’s a test run and that maybe some day we can go a bit farther away and do more concerts, but we’ll have to see about that. We’re pretty new as a group, and we aren’t generating any of our own money from CD sales or anything like that, so things like that will take a while. But for today, I’m hoping that the large amounts of time we will spend on a bus will be fun. Fun as in chatting with friends, listening to music fun, and not that carsick kind of fun that I sometimes get on buses or other moving vehicles.

Please put me on your “Do not Call (before 9 am) list”

Why must people call me in the mornings? Why? Do they not know that I have 3-5 children IN MY FACE at that time, and no matter how many times I ask them, tell them, whisper loudly to please be quiet while I’m on the phone, they just HAVE to talk to me while I’m on the phone.

“Mom, can I have scrambled eggs? Can I? Mom? Scrambled eggs?” “MOM, I NEED LUNCH MONEY!” “She’s poking me!” “La-La-lala-La-la,” “But I can’t FIND my socks!” is all going on while I try to talk to whoever it in that has called me before 9 am. I go into the other room to try to have a bit of quiet and THEY JUST FOLLOW ME!

And really, what good can come from phone calls in the morning, anyway? It’s people calling who want something from me. People who are just calling to say hi or to give me a bit of good news don’t call before the kids leave in the morning. They call at a better time, like 10. Or in the afternoon when I’m bored. But no–morning callers want something.

The first call was from a sweet little lady in my ward. She was out of town last weekend and I did the music in RS for her. No big deal. This time she was calling to thank me (sweet, but really not necessary) and then ask if I’d talk about my experience in the Bells on Temple Square for the 5 minutes for music time.  No problem.  But then she somehow dragged the conversation out so that we were on the phone for at least 5 minutes, maybe longer.  5 long minutes of me walking around the house trying to avoid the little people who were very intent in their need for mom.

Next we had a call from a lady in a nearby neighborhood.  She used to be in our ward before it split, and I love her to death.  I would LOVE to sit and chat with her for 1/2 hour or more.  But not before the kids leave for school.  Her kids are in high school and jr high, so obviously they’ve already left for school by this time, or she wouldn’t be able to call me, now, would she?  Chat, chat, avoid childen, say, “I’m on the phone!” about 3 times, and then she asks if Ryan could possibly help them out with a computer issue.  I should have known.  So, Ryan, if you’re reading this, Ruth wants you to call.

8:40.  5 minute to get the girls’ hair combed and poorly styled, shoes on and backpacks on.  The phone rings again.  I saw who it was and wasn’t going to answer it.  I already knew that this person was going to ask me if I could watch her preschooler.  Wasn’t going to answer it.  But one of the helpful children answered it for me and brought me the phone.  And I found myself saying that yes, I would watch her preschooler.  No problem.  You see, she didn’t realize that Tuesday was the last day of school.  I really don’t mind.  John loves playing with Tyler, and I usually pick him up from preschool on Thursdays and bring him home with me for an hour or two because his mom plays tennis on Thursdays.  So John will be happy to have a friend to play with, and it’s not like I’ve got anything important scheduled for this morning anyway.  Unless you call cleaning the bathrooms important.  Which it is.  Important and necessary (if you don’t think it’s important, just stop doing it for a few weeks and see how important and necessary it becomes).  Just not urgent.  It’s not like I had a lunch date with a friend (why DON”T I have any lunch dates with friends, anyway?  I think I need to work on that!) But I don’t have any programs at school, no important shopping to do, just a nice day at home to do some housework.  So, no, I really don’t have a problem watching her little munchkin, but must she call before 9?

I need to put a block on my phone.  If someone called, it would automatically go to the voice mail that said in a nice female voice, “The number you have reached, 7.5………… , does not accept calls before 9 am.  Please leave a short message, or try your call again later.  Thank you.”  But don’t think I don’t want your calls later in the day, because I do.  In fact, I’m just here, cleaning the bathrooms.  There’s nothing I’d love more than a distracting call from a friend to get me away from the drudgery that is toilet cleaning.

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